Let’s not beat around the bush. It’s not hard to get someone to have sex with you. But learning how to seduce someone, now that can be a challenge.
Finding someone to have sex with you is possibly the easiest part. But not everyone wants a fling. Some are looking for something deeper than just a physical connection. Learning how to seduce someone completely is an important dating skill. And don’t assume seduction is only used to get someone to sleep with you.
If done right, seduction is about drawing someone in and having them constantly wanting more of you until they’re hooked. While reading this, you probably think that sounds a bit intense, but many people seduce others around them.
This isn’t a skill that’s just been invented. It’s been around for decades. [Read: 15 secrets of seduction to turn anyone on]
How to seduce someone
You may know what seduction is, but very few actually know how to seduce someone. Or if they think they know, they usually screw up. That’s because they don’t actually know what it takes to seduce someone.
Through seduction, you’re appealing to someone’s more primal instincts. At the end of the day, we’re just apes with iPhones. There are some people who can naturally seduce others, but for most of us, we have no idea what we’re doing. And this is where I come in.
Below, I’m going to give you some helpful tips to get you on the right path of seduction. It’s time to become the master of seduction.
#1 Focus on eye contact. I say this in most of my articles because it’s true. Eye contact is crucial for seduction and flirting. This doesn’t mean you stare at them like a creep – that definitely won’t seduce the person you want. But with just enough contact, you can show them that you want them. [Read: How to have real sex appeal and unleash your inner sexy beast]
#2 Touch them. No, don’t jump on them. We’re talking about seduction. You’re supposed to be calm and collected. Graze their arm, brush against them when you walk by or sit close to them. The touches should be very light and subtle. Just enough so that they take notice of the body contact.
#3 Play hard to get. No one wants something that’s just handed to them. This isn’t how seduction works. People want to work for what they get. Which means if you want to be a master of seduction, you need to play hard to get. A little chase never hurt anyone, and this way, you make them come to you. [Read: 12 tips to make playing hard to get work for you]
#4 Be confident around them. When it comes to seduction, confidence is key. Without it, you can come across as someone who doesn’t know what they’re doing, and that’s not attractive. Listen, you may not know what you’re doing, but they don’t need to know that.
#5 Give them compliments. Of course, there’s a fine line between giving compliments and being overbearing. You don’t need to constantly compliment them on every little thing they wear or do. But you should compliment them when you mean it. If you do it too much, you won’t look like you’re seducing; you’ll look needy.
#6 Start smiling. You may think the serious and mysterious type of person is what gets people aroused, but that’s not true. People like to be around happy people, that’s just the way it is. So, if you want to start seducing someone, start smiling. [Read: 13 signs of unspoken attraction to reveal if someone’s into you]
#7 Don’t be arrogant. When we think about people who are good seducers, we imagine these cocky, arrogant type of people. But that’s not what attracts other people. Yes, you should be confident, but don’t act like you’re the hottest person who’s walked this earth. Because you’re not. #sorrynotsorry
#8 Keep a little bit of mystery. They don’t need to know how many times you go to the bathroom or about the yeast infection you just recovered from. Let’s leave a little bit of mystery for the person you’re trying to seduce. They don’t need to know everything right now. [Read: 33 subtle tips to be sexually attractive and seduce anyone]
#9 Let your body language do the talking. We mostly communicate via body language. A truer seducer knows exactly how to use their body. When you’re talking to them, have your body face their body. Lean into them, sit close to them. These are small gestures but can tell a person a lot about how you feel.
#10 Say their name. There’s something so sexy when another person says your name in a low and seductive tone. With that tone, you can tell a person everything. Lower your voice a bit when you speak their name. You’ll see what it does.
#11 Look at their lips. The lips are a sexual part of the body, even though they’re used to make sure food doesn’t escape our mouth. But when you look at someone’s lips when they’re talking, it’s highly suggestive and seductive. It gives them the impression that you want something more.
#12 Send flirtatious texts. Oh, I needed to include this one on the list. Texting has become a huge part of how we communicate with others. You have no idea how much time I’ve spent trying to decode a text message from a guy I liked. So, send flirtatious, yet hard to get, texts. [Read: 12 flirty emojis that’ll make you a pro flirter in no time]
#13 It’ll take practice. Seduction isn’t something that’s going to pop-up overnight. It’s going to take a lot of time and practice until you get the hang of it and become comfortable with your own technique. But eventually, you’ll find a seduction method which is most effective and successful for you.
#14 Let them smell you. Not in a creepy way. You shouldn’t be shoving your head into their nose. But your body releases pheromones in which other people smell and subconsciously decide whether or not they like it. If they like the way you smell, well, you’re one step closer getting them to like you.
#15 Be yourself. At the end of the day, seduction can only work if you’re being yourself. Many people make the mistake of trying to act differently when they’re trying to seduce someone. But that’s a big mistake. You’re supposed to be yourself, that’s who they’re supposed to fall for.
Now that you know how to seduce someone, it’s time to start practicing! It’ll take some time, but you’ll eventually get the hang of it.