Is it feasible to keep your ex as a friend?
Yes, being friends with an ex is difficult, but it is not impossible.
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People rarely succeed in maintaining healthy, amicable contact with their ex, especially if the relationship ended badly. There is always a slew of emotions involved, which further adds to the confusion.
Yes, being friends with an ex is difficult, but it is not impossible.
You may have known them before you started dating, which may encourage you to keep in touch even if your romantic relationship didn't work out.
While it may not sound enticing, there are a variety of reasons why you might want to be buddies, but you'll need some pointers on how to do it properly:
Yes, being friends with an ex is difficult, but it is not impossible.
You may have known them before you started dating, which may encourage you to keep in touch even if your romantic relationship didn't work out.
While it may not sound enticing, there are a variety of reasons why you might want to be buddies, but you'll need some pointers on how to do it properly:
Completely forgive each other
Breakups put both parties under a lot of mental and emotional strain. It's difficult to watch a relationship end when you thought your ex was the one you'd spend the rest of your life with.
Infidelity, a lack of commitment, and a slew of other factors could be at play, leaving a bad taste in the mouth for years.
You must both heal and, most importantly, forgive in order to build a good, resentment-free connection.
Infidelity, a lack of commitment, and a slew of other factors could be at play, leaving a bad taste in the mouth for years.
You must both heal and, most importantly, forgive in order to build a good, resentment-free connection.
Avoid badmouthing others.
When a breakup occurs, it's all too easy to defend why you were correct. It's necessary to talk to someone about how you're feeling, but it's not a good idea to start disclosing all of your problems.
If you do, your friends will despise them for the rest of their lives, and your ex will eventually find out what you were saying behind their back, destroying the friendship.
This is why it is imperative that you refrain from chatting about them at all times. You don't use character assassination tactics, no matter how nefarious they were, since they always backfire.
If you do, your friends will despise them for the rest of their lives, and your ex will eventually find out what you were saying behind their back, destroying the friendship.
This is why it is imperative that you refrain from chatting about them at all times. You don't use character assassination tactics, no matter how nefarious they were, since they always backfire.
Always reach out on the best time
If you want things to work out, you'll need to be quite precise with your timing. This is especially important if you've just split up.
You may believe that you and your friend are on the same page when it comes to being friends, but this is not always the case.
You should definitely give each other some space so that you can both think things through, as pushing too hard too soon can backfire.
You may believe that you and your friend are on the same page when it comes to being friends, but this is not always the case.
You should definitely give each other some space so that you can both think things through, as pushing too hard too soon can backfire.
Discuss the concept of boundries
Setting suitable boundaries is a common error people make when trying to start a new relationship with an ex.
You need to have a hard conversation about what the consequences are and how you plan to proceed without treading on each other's toes, as awkward as it may seem.
To avoid any complications, you should both communicate openly, especially when you both begin dating other partners.
You need to have a hard conversation about what the consequences are and how you plan to proceed without treading on each other's toes, as awkward as it may seem.
To avoid any complications, you should both communicate openly, especially when you both begin dating other partners.
Knowing when to let go is essential
You don't have to be close friends with your ex if you choose to be friends with them. You have to be honest with yourself at some point, and if it's just not possible, continue a 'friendship from afar.'
When you see that one of you is holding on to some bitter feelings or that there are some expectations of a revived romance, this can happen.
It's fine if things get too complicated to be besties; instead of forcing issues, you can either break ties totally or check in on each other every now and again.
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